Attraction Assessment

1) I'm drawn to relationships that feel exciting but unstable or unpredictable.

2) I mistake intense emotional highs and lows for passion or chemistry.

3) I feel bored or disconnected in relationships that are calm and consistent.

4) I find myself trying to "fix" or rescue potential partners.

5) When someone shows steady interest in me, I often lose attraction to them.

6) I feel most alive in the chase or uncertainty phase of relationships.

7) I tend to ignore bodily warning signals (tension, gut feelings, anxiety) about new partners.

8) I stay in relationships that don't meet my needs because ending them feels too overwhelming.

9) I'm frequently drawn to people who remind me of difficult relationships from my past.

10) I find myself overriding my intuition and making excuses for concerning behavior.

11) My strongest attractions are often to people who are emotionally unavailable.

12) I worry that if I show my authentic self, others will reject me.

13) I either become very dependent on partners or keep them at an emotional distance.

14) I tend to take on a caretaking role in relationships to ensure I'm needed.

15) I find it difficult to trust that partners will stick around when things get tough.

16) I'm quick to assume negative intentions behind a partner's actions.

17) I'm drawn to people I need to convince to commit or appreciate me.

18) I feel responsible for my partner's emotions and wellbeing.

19) I struggle to express my needs directly, fearing I'll appear needy or demanding

20) I often feel either smothered or abandoned in relationships.

21) I notice the same problems emerging in different relationships.

22) I'm attracted to potential rather than the reality of who someone is right now.

23)I prioritize chemistry and connection over character and compatibility.

24) I notice red flags early on but convince myself they're not important.

25) I compromise my core values or needs to maintain relationships.

26) I'm attracted to partners who need healing or "just need someone to love them properly".

27) I find myself trying to prove my worth to partners who are critical or withholding.

28) I become a different version of myself in relationships, losing touch with my authentic needs.

29) I'm drawn to dynamics that feel familiar, even if they're painful.

30) I invest quickly in new relationships before truly knowing the person.

31) I don't have a clear sense of what I truly need and deserve in relationships.

32) I believe having a partner will make me feel complete or fix my problems.

33) I struggle to maintain boundaries when I'm attracted to someone.

34) I haven't fully processed or healed from previous relationship wounds.

35) I often doubt whether I deserve the kind of relationship I really want.

36)I neglect my own needs, interests, and friendships when in a relationship.

37)I feel uncomfortable or empty when I'm not in a relationship.

38) I judge myself harshly for my relationship history or mistakes.

39) I'm unclear about my non-negotiables in relationships.

40) I accept behavior from partners that friends tell me is concerning.