Why do IÂ Keep
Attracting the Wrong Partners?
This assessment is designed to help you uncover the unconscious patterns that might be causing you to repeatedly attract or be attracted to partners who aren't right for you.
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1) I'm drawn to relationships that feel exciting but unstable or unpredictable.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
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Neutral
Totally Disagree
2) I mistake intense emotional highs and lows for passion or chemistry.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
3) I feel bored or disconnected in relationships that are calm and consistent.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
4) I find myself trying to "fix" or rescue potential partners.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
5) When someone shows steady interest in me, I often lose attraction to them.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
6) I feel most alive in the chase or uncertainty phase of relationships.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
7) I tend to ignore bodily warning signals (tension, gut feelings, anxiety) about new partners.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
8) I stay in relationships that don't meet my needs because ending them feels too overwhelming.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
9) I'm frequently drawn to people who remind me of difficult relationships from my past.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
10) I find myself overriding my intuition and making excuses for concerning behavior.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
11) My strongest attractions are often to people who are emotionally unavailable.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
12) I worry that if I show my authentic self, others will reject me.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
13) I either become very dependent on partners or keep them at an emotional distance.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
14) I tend to take on a caretaking role in relationships to ensure I'm needed.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
15) I find it difficult to trust that partners will stick around when things get tough.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
16) I'm quick to assume negative intentions behind a partner's actions.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
17) I'm drawn to people I need to convince to commit or appreciate me.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
18) I feel responsible for my partner's emotions and wellbeing.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
19) I struggle to express my needs directly, fearing I'll appear needy or demanding
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
20) I often feel either smothered or abandoned in relationships.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
21) I notice the same problems emerging in different relationships.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
22) I'm attracted to potential rather than the reality of who someone is right now.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
23)I prioritize chemistry and connection over character and compatibility.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
24) I notice red flags early on but convince myself they're not important.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
25) I compromise my core values or needs to maintain relationships.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
26) I'm attracted to partners who need healing or "just need someone to love them properly".
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
27) I find myself trying to prove my worth to partners who are critical or withholding.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
28) I become a different version of myself in relationships, losing touch with my authentic needs.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
29) I'm drawn to dynamics that feel familiar, even if they're painful.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
30) I invest quickly in new relationships before truly knowing the person.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
31) I don't have a clear sense of what I truly need and deserve in relationships.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
32) I believe having a partner will make me feel complete or fix my problems.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
33) I struggle to maintain boundaries when I'm attracted to someone.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
34) I haven't fully processed or healed from previous relationship wounds.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
35) I often doubt whether I deserve the kind of relationship I really want.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
36)I neglect my own needs, interests, and friendships when in a relationship.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
37)I feel uncomfortable or empty when I'm not in a relationship.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
38) I judge myself harshly for my relationship history or mistakes.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
39) I'm unclear about my non-negotiables in relationships.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree
40) I accept behavior from partners that friends tell me is concerning.
1 = Totally Agree
3 = Neutral
5 = Totally Disagree
Totally Agree
Neutral
Totally Disagree